Today is an extremely important day because it marks the end of my second trip alone. Almost one year after I joined Flow - Baler aka the day I took a long hard look at my life and decided there was some serious changing that needed to happen.
When I look at my life now, and really try to figure out why I’ve been so… different, I realize it’s because I’ve made a lot of darn good decisions this past year. And the first and most important decision I made was joining Flow. Coincidentally, Flow is composed of three main activities, and is organized by three inspiring women, so it only seems right that i talk about the three awesome things I learned since having joined Flow in Baler.
1. Don’t be afraid of being alone. Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be lonely.
It was the first time I did anything completely alone. Coming from an all girls school, I’ve just been so used to having people around me. Gross as it may sound, prior to this, I don’t think I’ve ever gone to a public bathroom without saying “hey! I need to pee.” while fully expecting someone to say “okay! I’ll go with you!”. Being alone in a place 5-6 hours away with people I had just met was liberating. It was great to be around people who you could relate to on nothing except pure passion for a whole variety of things: travel, yoga, samba, surfing, furniture, blogging, marketing. Whatever it was, I just knew that I was surrounded by people who were moving towards something they were truly passionate about. And when I talked about the things I loved, they listened too. You will never be lonely unless you choose to be.
2. Don’t be afraid to open yourself up to firsts.
The Flow weekend was the first time I tried surfing, and from going to the beach just once a year, I found myself with a tan in December, and surfing (or at least trying to. Still not so good at it. Haha.) at least once a month. I’m not aspiring to get all competitive with the surfing, but I just love the feeling of being in the water and DOING something.
It was also the first time I visited Baler, a place that I have grown to love no matter how seemingly dangerous it is to get there. I could talk about it in length, but basically Baler always feels like home.
Shortly after Flow, I came up with a list of 25 firsts before I turn 25, which will probably explain why my Facebook timeline shows evidence of me doing extremely random things like sleeping on a hammock, wakeboarding or cooking.
My boss says that novelty sustains people like me who have adult ADHD. For me though, experiencing things for the first time is the only way I can decide if I want to do something or not. I have made a pact with myself to never say no to anything I haven’t tried at least once. Except maybe cliff diving. But I can definitely be swayed.
3. Don’t be afraid. PERIOD.
So now, a year after, I am blogging from a random coffee shop in Bali, wrapping up my first solo trip out of the country. When I think very carefully about my whole trip I realize that it was a little scary. I got freaked out getting stuck in the impact zone at Padang Padang, was attacked by a monkey, and literally ran out of money for airport tax (a miracle happened, so don’t worry about it. Haha.). But I also met lots of wonderful people, took a boat out and surfed right in the middle of the freaking ocean, caught a wave on my own and rode it till forever while watching planes take off around me, and explored Ubud on foot for a day.
That being said, my wish for you is that you lose the fear, go out into the world and conquer it.